He is very tall and has quite the pace, and I wasn’t in the mood to catch up, so I just walked behind, safe distance if he wanted to get rid of me. At some point he stopped, looked at me and asked what my plan was from now on. I said that I was heading home soon, as I was getting soaked (it was raining) and very tired. He said “I wish I could go come, too” and walked on. I followed until we got to a quiet corner, which was in shadows. I knew why, so I didn’t really hold him back. He kept glancing around the corner, because it was close to their meeting point and he was literally paranoid for someone to see us. At some point he even took a big step away, when someone walked by. Definitely didn’t want to be caught with me.
So there we were on a parking lot, shadows around us, raining (did I say I felt like in a movie before? Yeah, right.), talking about this and that. Him saying he would also like to go home, so I was just like “well join me?” (I only said because I knew he couldn’t), to which he said “well you have a car and I live by myself, so you can come to my place sometime maybe?” And also me throwing at him, how he had been fooling his friends twice that evening to get some alone time with me, to which he just smiled and said “clever, huh?”
Eventually we were kissing again. Him being very touchy and groping. I let him, I knew nothing would happen. The thought of his girlfriend crept in again, but I couldn’t get myself to ask, because I didn’t want to anger him or spoil that moment. I was very selfish, yes. And as I said before, I knew the remorse was here already, it couldn’t get any worse. I just want to point out that right from the beginning, I always told myself that I would not kiss him. If he did kiss me, I would kiss him back, but I would not make that move.
Now comes the part that really caught me off guard though: Around 12.15am he said he would go back to his band now. I said okay and kissed him goodbye. He kissed me. And kissed me again. And that’s how it continued for about 15 minutes. At some point I asked if he hadn’t said he wanted to leave at some point to which he replied “you’re not exactly making it very easy to leave, actually.” This was the cutest thing ever, right?
Anyway. So we kissed some more and then he just said “either you leave now, or something bad will happen” –> which I guess indicated sex. He was getting very horny, I could tell from his touches. So I left. For the sake of my mind – or what was left of it, my remorse that would soon enough follow and him not actually cheating on his girlfriend. (Definition of cheating? It was just a way to calm my mind a bit. Don’t get me wrong, kissing is cheating for me already.)
All the way home I couldn’t stop shaking my head for my stupidity of letting him kiss me although he had a girlfriend. Remorse on full force. And it hasn’t left me yet.
But when I think about the way he looked at me, about the things he said to me and if I didn’t know about that girlfriend, I’d actually say he has a crush on me. Now this leaves me in a pretty darn bad place, and I do not know what to do. He invited me to a party on Saturday again, to which I might actually go, I don’t know yet. But I just really feel the need to talk about that whole situation and I don’t want to do it over WhatsApp (and surely won’t do so on a party either!).
I just really don’t even know what I want myself. Do I even want to date someone like that?… I texted him when I got home to be safe and thanks for the evening and didn’t text him today. He texted me around midday, so that was something I didn’t expect actually. But it’s like nothing happened, which is weird.
All I know is that I am already sick of my friends knowing, because they’re making my remorse that much worse than it already is. Saying things like “you really want a man that is cheating on his girlfriend like this?”.. I mean shut the fuck up, guys, you don’t even know what is going on. Just let me figure this out by myself, seriously. Do they really think I don’t have those thoughts? I am a very very remorseful person. And finding myself in such a place again just sucks. But I’m not going to lie, I really liked the attention and kissing. So there’s that.
Fuck this.